I can disagree with your opinion, it turns out, but I can’t disagree with your experience. And once I have a sense of your experience, you and I are in relationship, acknowledging the complexity in each other’s position, listening less guardedly. The difference in our opinions will probably remain intact, but it no longer defines what is possible between us.
Krista Tippett
I’m finding my task is not to argue or attempt to change another who has a difference of opinion. Nothing builds a wall faster in a conversation than where someone interrupts and tells another they are wrong or rolls their eyes. We miss out on a wonderful opportunity of a relationship. I am learning what is possible between us when we become listeners sharing our experiences. I believe Krista is correct!
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Mark
It seems like a good starting point at least. If the goal is to move forward, not backward, maybe that can be a point of agreement.
Monte Stevens
I’m finding in life that I didn’t know how to be in a healthy relationship, let alone a conversation. Hopefully i’m learning to do both. And yes, moving forward is what we want. Stay warm, my friend.