We received our first measurable snowfall beginning early Wednesday morning and continuing into the early evening. I had from 4-6 inches of wet snow on my car yesterday morning. After coffee and conversation I drove out to Pineridge Natural Area for the above image. It was deep enough I got snow in my boots. This morning we had clear skies, a beautiful full moon and 10 degrees. Roads are ice and dangerous.
My dad’s health deteriorates. The heart and kidneys are failing and he is retaining a lot of fluids. So, he asked to stop taking all medications except the Eliquis and be put into Hospice. They brought in a Hospice doctor to evaluate him for their services and then called in Hospice. I am amazed that he is cognisant enough to think this all through and then make the decision himself. He wants to stay on the Eliquis because it can help prevent strokes. Something I would not have thought of. I will not go down there unless something happens since I just visited two weeks ago. I did talk to him on the phone yesterday. He sounded weak and tired and seemed ready to have Hospice available for him. After watching Hospice help mom he knows what they can do. I will keep you informed as you are part of my family.
8 Comments
Alexander S. Kunz
Monte, I am very sorry to read about your dad’s health, and I share your amazement that he is making this conscious decision himself. I am torn that this lovely, beautiful image with its soothing cool blue tones and stillness comes with this sad message. Good luck & strength to you, Monte!
Monte Stevens
Thanks, Alex. I wrote his obituary last night and this morning then sent it to my sisters for editing. I found that to be wonderful exercise for me in my memories of him.
Bonnie
Hats off to your Dad for doing things his way. I believe that’s the silent wish of all of us–to orchestrate as much as we can about our own final chapter. Thinking about you and your family, Monte.
Monte Stevens
Thank you, Bonnie! I read a book that pointed out how we really do not know how many people in nursing homes or memory care units do not want to be alive with the quality of life they have. That is one reason to have conversations with loved ones so they are aware of our desires and requests.
Earl
There’s really not words. Just know that we are thinking of you, your Dad, and the rest of the family. I’m so happy you managed this most recent trip to see him.
Monte Stevens
Thanks, Earl, I appreciate you thinking of my dad and family. Yes, the trip was more important than first imagined. I think it may have been a step toward his decision. It is cold here and there, so stay warm!!
Tom Dills
Aww, so sorry to hear about your Dad, Monte. But good that you were able to spend some quality time with him just a few weeks ago. I echo Bonnie’s comment…I think we all hope to be able to make those decisions for ourselves when the time comes.
Monte Stevens
Thanks, Tom. I hope all is well with you two!!